4 Steps to Manifest Resilience And Conquer in Life
Have you ever met a strong person that never went through the deepest situations? Or a hero that never actually conquered?
There’s a quote that says, “When life gives you something that makes you feel afraid, that’s when life gives you a chance to be brave.” How true is this quote? Sometimes we go through the craziest things that make us so afraid. It can even feel as if there’s no way out from that specific situation.
Today I want to give you 4 resilient ways you can deal with life when life decides to throw a big sour lemon in your face. You must realize that fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. When you understand this powerful statement, you can be creative with your options and face anything that you go through.
So, Let’s look at four ways to bounce back after going through difficulties.
1. When Life Gives You Lemons Ask For Salt And Tequila
Let’s be honest, sometimes life gets so sour that it’s almost impossible to think straight. That’s just the life we were given to live. Unfortunately, life is not always roses and berries.
The word ‘resilient’ is a powerful word when life gets sour. Resilience is the virtue that enables people to move through hardship and become better.
You see, no one can ever escape pain, fear, and suffering. Yet from pain can come wisdom, from fear can come courage, and from suffering can come strength if you have the virtue of resilience.
“When life gives you lemons ask for salt and tequila.” I’ve decided to use this quote because it represents the power of ‘resilience’. When life gets sour, instead of locking yourself in the dark room and allow depression to take over, you get creative with the options that you have and still conquers.
To do this, you have to know and prepare yourself mentally that nothing is permanent. In other words, the bad won’t last forever. There will be an end to every crisis. Break loose from the victim mentality.
Real growth is when you start checking and correcting yourself. Instead of blaming others, you take your power back by being responsible for your life.
And lastly, see your difficulties as a possibility to grow. Your difficulties will build you to become a strong and capable human being.
2. Expectation is The Cause of Most of Your Hardships
There was a time in my life when I used to give all of me to people, jobs, etc. expecting to get the same in return. I used to be there for people during their high and lows, but when it was my turn it was like the whole world has vanished.
Fun fact about me: I’m a helper. I enjoy helping people in every area of life. To the people that trust me, I want to be the Spider-Man (girl I should say) of their story.
So, what’s wrong with this behavior? 2 things can come out of this behavior. 1. People will start taking advantage of your availability. And you will become the person that they will always come to for help. 2. You will start to expect the same when it’s your turn to ask for help.
And This is it. When it’s your turn to ask for help, you expect that the same people that you’ve helped or was always there for will be there for you, but they are not. As a result, you will end up hurt and disappointed.
So, to avoid reaching this state, you have to stop expecting YOU from people, that’s when you will stop getting hurt.
And lastly, forgive yourself for the times you said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no.” for the times when you did things for the approval of others.
3. Difficulties Can Either Break You or Make You Wiser
The result of your difficulties depends on how resilient you are as a person. We will all face difficulties. That’s an unavoidable result as a human being. But what sets the difference is your mindset. If you see your struggles like “oh man, life is against me”, you will never conquer in life. But if your perception of your struggles are, “new lessons to grow in life” you will be unstoppable.
So let me ask you some questions. How do you work through fear and build courage? How do you overcome defeat and rise above obstacles?
This year so far has been a year of unpredictability. It’s like we are unfolding a new mystery each month. Also, for me personally, I was confronted with so many difficulties. Starting with a mystery facial condition that I’m still struggling with today.
To bounce back after difficulties, you have to try to understand what life is teaching you. When we are struggling, we don’t need a book in our hands. We need the right words in our minds.
You see, just like you, I’ve lost many fights. I’ve lost friends. I’ve failed dozens of times to be the leader, friend, wife that I know I can be. But it has never broken me down to the point that I couldn’t see a way out.
Because of all my struggles, I consider myself to be wiser than I was 5 years ago. I know that my struggles will not endure forever, there’s a way out for every hardship. You just need to find the lesson that life is trying to teach you.
4. Resilience is The Key!
If you want to be happy, you need resilience. If you want to be successful, you need resilience. Resilience is the key to a well-lived life.
This is the wisdom we’ve all been searching for. For anything in life, you need resilience. You can’t have happiness, success, or anything else worth having without meeting hardship along the way. #FACTS
What’s the difference between people who are broken by pain and people who got wiser by it? RESILIENCE. If you want the wisdom, the strength, and courage that can come from struggle, the price is clear: you have to endure the struggle first.
This is real talk because many times we want something, but we are not willing to go through the struggle to get it. You can’t be successful without failing along the way. You wouldn’t know what happiness is if you’ve never cried yourself to sleep.
As human beings, we get so distracted by the fact that we are struggling. Instead of shifting the mindset to see that you are building more wisdom because you are struggling. Somebody once said, if you are struggling, rejoice because something great is on the way.
Your struggles are not unique even though they are your struggles. Your struggles are very much like the struggles of those who went before you and very much like those who will come after you. Because there’s nothing new under the sun. But know this if the ones before you could have overcome their struggles, so can you!
Pain can either break us or make us wiser. Suffering can destroy us or make us stronger. Fear can either paralyze us or make us more courageous. What sets the difference is how resilient you are as a person.
As human beings, difficulties will always knock on our doors. Living on earth requires that we must expect the unexpected and prepare for the unforeseen. The thing about difficulty is that we cannot control the situation that has come upon us. But we can control some details. For example, our reaction towards the difficulties. And that’s when ‘resilience’ joins the game.
You have to develop the mindset, that you will bounce back after every difficulty that will knock on your doors. No matter if you fall, you will get up! When this is part of your mindset, you will be unstoppable!